It happens when you have one of THOSE days. You know, one where your youngest hides from you in the clothing racks at the store, your oldest throws a fit because you won’t buy him a toy and you’re unable to help your daughter work through her girlfriend problems. Your children are at each other’s throats, you’ve disciplined them 19 times and counting, and your husband comes home to no food on the table and no kiss on the cheek. Again. It is days like these when the lies begin to creep in and doubt rises in your mind. Have you been there? Don’t raise your hand, but I’m pretty sure that we all have been there a time or two.
“Insecurity saps our faith. It robs us of our joy. It cheats us out of the boldness we need to really excel at what God has called us to do.” ~Joyce Meyer
Satan will do anything in his power to make a mom doubt her abilities, to make her feel insecure. We CAN NOT let him do this!! Let’s uncover several common mommy lies so that we can dismantle and overcome them.
Lie #1: “God gave my kids the wrong mom!”
Do you know that God handpicked you to be your child’s mom? He purposefully placed them in the care of your hands.
In Jeremiah 1:5 (NLT) It says, “I knew you before I formed you in your mother’s womb. Before you were born I set you apart.”
Before your child was born God knew their likes and dislikes. He knew their strengths and weaknesses. He knew what they would need to be successful in this life and He handpicked you to help him or her fulfill His will for their lives. Think about the different areas of your life that you struggle with. How is God working those weaknesses out in you? What changes is He asking you to make? Now look at your children. Do you see those same weaknesses and struggles in them? How awesome is it that God is showing you how to overcome these trials in your own life so that you can teach your children how to avoid them or to overcome them in their own lives!
When you doubt your ability to be their mom, you doubt God’s placement. Dear mom, trust me when I say, “Father knows best!” Your children need you! They can learn from you and they will feel loved by you! God chose you.
Lie #2 :“I don’t have what it takes to train and discipline my children.”
“The difference between a good mom and a great mom is her supreme confidence in her supreme God.” Joyce Meyer
You know what, you in and of yourself do not have what it takes to train and discipline your child. But you have an all-knowing Father who is on your team and is so willing to be a team player in raising your kids.
I love what it says in 2 Peter 1:3 (NLT) “By His divine power, God has given us everything we need for living a godly life. We have received all of this by coming to know Him, the one who called us to Himself by means of His marvelous glory and excellence.”
God promises in His Word that He will supply you with all that you need to do all that He has called you to do, and all you have to do is ask!
Luke 11:9 (NLT) “And so I tell you, keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you.”
James 1:5-6 (NLT) “If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and He will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking. But when you ask Him, be sure that your faith is in God alone. Do not waver, for a person with divided loyalty is as unsettled as a wave of the sea that is blown and tossed by the wind.”
The key to successfully parenting your kids is knowing who is in control. The sooner you give God the reins the sooner you will see your training actually working. Wake up each day asking God to reveal your child’s heart to you. Ask Him to show you how to penetrate the selfishness and sinful nature and mold it into who God created it to be. Follow the Spirit’s leading – He knows what will speak life into their little hearts. Each child is so different, but God can show you how to get through and actually change them.
No child is accidently placed into a parent’s life. It was intentional and purposeful!
Momma, you have what it takes! Believe it!
Other Posts in the Series:
Conquering Mommy Lies, Part 2