Go with the flow.
What kinds of feeling do these words bring out? No matter what personality type we are, all of us moms are trying hard to be the best mom we can be for our children. We think about it night and day. We lie awake at night thinking about the day. We stress about it. We vow to do better. We allow Satan to mess with our minds when we focus on what we “shoulda, coulda, woulda” do different instead of what we actually accomplished. Today we have two more lies that we are going to dismantle and no longer allow in our thought life.
Lie #3: “I am going to ruin my kids if I don’t get my act in gear.”
I highly doubt there is a mom out there who’s mission is to ruin their kid’s life. But somehow we have this fleeting thought that if we aren’t the perfect mom, our child’s life will be ruined. Well, I have good news for you! God loves your kids more than you do. His desire for them to succeed is greater than your own. No one is perfect, but we are all forgiven. God gives us grace and forgiveness when we mess up. Our children will do the same if we give them the opportunity. One of the best things that you can do when you mess up is ask for forgiveness. In doing this, you show your children that it is okay not to be perfect and there is forgiveness and grace that can be given when we mess up. No one will have it all together, all or even some of the time. God can still use us in our imperfect state, especially when we are listening to His Spirit’s guiding. Seek God each morning to help you be the best mom that you can be. Ask Him to show you what each of your children needs that day and ask Him to give you the strength, patience and wisdom to fulfill those individual needs. Then when you mess up, like all of us do, ask God and your children for forgiveness then move on. Don’t allow yourself to meditate on it. Learn from it and get a game plan in place to do better the next time.
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Lie #4: “If only I was like Susie Knowitall then I would be a better mom.”
I love what it says in Psalm 139:14…
Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.
God made each of your children unique, and He made you unique too. He purposefully made you different than Susie or Jane. Because He made you different and your children different, then your mothering will be different. Mothers do themselves a disservice when they compare themselves or their children to other children and moms. No two households will be the same. Even if you have the same philosophies and goals in parenting, it will still look different in how it is played out. We can learn from each other, but we don’t have to be each other. Frequently we tell our kids: “Each family chooses how they want to do something. It doesn’t make one family better than the other, it just makes them different.” I believe each family has a calling, a mission that God has given to the family as a whole. Some are to be leaders, others servants. Some doers and others are to pray for and encourage the doers. Since there are different callings, things will be done differently. Celebrate these differences! Allow each mom to function within their gifting. If we are all doing our different parts, we can work together as a team and accomplish a lot. Instead of trying to one up each other or be like each other, play your role and change your community.
Remember we are not to seek the approval of man, but of God. It doesn’t matter what your next door neighbor or the lady across the aisle at church thinks about your parenting. The only thing that matters is if you did want God called YOU to do.
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So today, shoot for doing God’s will for your life instead of trying to achieve the world’s image of the perfect mom!