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I Love You 100!?!?

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“I love you!”

“No, I love you!”

“I love you more.”

“No, I love you more.”

“Well, I love you infinity!”

“Well then, I love you double infinity!”

 

Has this never ending conversation ever gone on at your house? I know it has at mine. That is until we put a stop to it. Continue reading

Books For Parents and Their Kids

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As you know, we love books.  Today we have a list of books for parents.  Some are for the parents and some are for the kids.  We hope that they can be a blessing to you.  And there are so many more great books out there – please leave give us more ideas by putting your recommendations in the comments.

For the Parents

Books are a way to pass wisdom from one person to another. In our quest to be the most effective parents we can be, we have found a lot of books to help us.  We never blindly follow the advice from a book, but we can glean bits of wisdom from most books we read.

For the Kids

In “Honey For A Child’s Heart,” the author says that parents are responsible for giving their children both milk and honey.  Milk represents the nurturing and the necessities.  Honey “symbolizes the sweetness of life, that special quality that makes life sing with enjoyment for all it holds…Good books are rich in honey…”  These are some books that have brought both milk and honey into our own children’s lives so far.

Free Printable: |  PDF_Picture   Books For Parents and Their Kids   |

Books Matter

Humans tell stories.  We always have, and we always will.  This is a vital part of the human experience.  Good books tell stories that encourage, that inspire, and that reinforce the worldview that you are teaching to your children.  By reading, reading to your kids, and picking good books for them, you can set them up for a life made better by books.

We want your suggestions!  What are your ‘go-to’ books for parenting?  For your kids?  

Kids, Chameleons, and Ninjas

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This weekend I watched American Ninja Warrior for the first time with my kids. Where has this show been my whole life? If you haven’t seen it, it is basically a competition that requires you to climb, swing, and crawl through challenging obstacle course.  After we got done watching, the kids went downstairs and made their own obstacle course to practice.

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I refrained from participating (mostly), but it did make me feel inspired to go for a run or start lifting weights.  They made the physical challenges look so fun, and it was inspirational to see them push through the pain to try to win the prize. I thought, “That looks like fun.  I bet I could do that!”  I was struck by how much we were influenced by 2 hours of television.  Simply watching those athletes jump, swing, and climb had inspired us to do the same.  My, how impressionable we are! 

Aren’t we all a little bit like the stereotypical chameleon, which changes color to match whatever is near it?  *   As a parent, it reminded me of the importance of exposing my kids to good influences.  Even the most independent and counter-cultural or anti-faddist adults are still influenced by those around them, to some degree.  We still change our colors to blend in with our surroundings.  We are influenced, sometimes subconsciously, by the people around us.  I have two takeaways from this:  Continue reading

Parents As Teachers

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One of the reasons that we started Our Purposeful Life is to share ideas about how to teach our kids.  We are passionate about the idea of being purposeful as we raise each one of them according to God’s plan.

Here is a compilation of some of our favorite posts about our sacred role of Parents as Teachers.

While you are here, feel free to explore our site!  Click on any of the headings or sub-headings above to find all posts related to that topic.  And don’t forget to follow us by email by putting your email address in the Subscribe box on the right.  One step and you’re finished!

 

All posts related to ‘Family’

OPL: Family

Teaching our kids about the deep meaning behind each holiday:

OPL-Holidays

Parents as Teachers

The 4 roles of the preceptor parent

A dad is a teacher

The Fine Art of Child Delegation

 

Character Cards

Contentment Not Complaining 

Selflessness

Boldness

Self-Control

Meekness

 

Teaching about the armor of God

Armor of God:  Goals and Armor:

Joining the Army: Teaching Your Child the A, B, C’s of Salvation

Armor of God: Goals and Armor

Armor of God:  Belt of Truth

Armor of God:  Breastplate of Righteousness

Armor of God:  Shoes of the Gospel

Armor of God:  Shield of Faith

Armor of God: Helmet of Salvation

Armor of God: The Sword 

Using Books and Storytelling to teach your kids and others

Storytime: Easter 

Storytime: You Have What It Takes!

Storytime: Work Hard!

Storytime: Thanksgiving

Storytime: A Savior Is Born! 

Storytime:  How God Sees You

 Being a 1 Corinthians 13 Mom

www.c13mom.org

Fun outings to teach your kids about apples, pumpkins, and life:

Outings

 

Sunday School Activities

Agape Girls

Strong Boys

Strong Boys Activities

 

Armor of God: Breastplate of Righteousness

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Am I good enough? Have I made one too many mistakes? Has God given up on me?  Did I miss my calling? Don’t raise your hand, but have you ever thought one of these thoughts? I am sure that each one of us at some point in our lives has entertained these life sucking questions.

Well, I have exciting news for you. Today’s piece of armor will dispel any doubt and give you the boldness and confidence you need to do all that God has called you to do.

The breastplate of righteousness is an important piece of armor that we need to fully understand and take hold of. The breastplate was the most beautiful piece of armor the Roman soldiers wore. It began at their neck and proceeded down their bodies to their knees. It was made up of small, scale-like pieces of metal. As the soldiers wore the breastplate and moved, the little pieces of metal rubbed together. An amazing thing happened the more they rubbed together: the pieces of metal became shinier and more brilliant. The more the armor was worn, the prettier and brighter it got!  Continue reading

The Armor of God: The Belt of Truth

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This is by far my favorite piece of the armor and I think the most important piece. Let me explain. Satan’s main way that he attacks us is through lies.

John 8:44 “…He (the devil) was a murderer from the beginning. He has always hated the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, it is consistent with his character; for he is a liar and the father of lies.”

That is how he takes us out. He plants some seed of doubt or disbelief about God or ourselves, and continues with the same lie until it is part of our own beliefs. Today we learn about a piece of armor that will save us from Satan’s main tactic and will help us use the other pieces to their full potential.

The Roman soldier’s belt was one of the most important pieces of armor. It literally held most of the other pieces in place. The breastplate tucked into the belt, keeping it in place. There was a loop on the belt that held the sword, and a place for the shield to rest which helped the soldiers to carry such a heavy piece of armor. If the belt was not put on or was not put on correctly then those other three pieces would not function properly. If these four pieces of armor were not in their proper place, it would cause the soldier to be unable to walk, run or fight in the heat of battle. Everything was dependent on the placement of the belt.

So what is the belt of truth?  The place where we can find ultimate truth is the written Word of God.

Psalm 33:4 NLT “For the Word of The Lord holds true, and we can trust everything that he does.”

Proverbs 30:5 NLT “Every word of God proves true. He is a shield to all who come to him for protection.”

2 Timothy 3:16-17 NLT All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right. God uses it to prepare and equip his people to do every good work.

Truth has to be our foundation. If we do not fight our battles standing on truth, then we will fail every time.

Here are scriptures to back up the fact that the belt, the written Word of God, is what allows us to use all the other pieces properly. Continue reading

Goals and Armor

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Last night we did our annual goals brainstorming with the kids. We reflected on the last year and reminded ourselves of the good things that happened. Then we took time to pray and think about the goals and plans that we have for the coming year. The kids were excited all day looking forward to this family time and celebration.

Kids’ Goals printable:  | PDF_Picture  Click here to download.  |

New Year’s Interview printable.  | PDF_Picture   Click here to download.  |

Year In Review 4 Squares printable:  | PDF_Picture  Click here to download.  |

After we finished this year’s sets of goals, we pulled out the goals from the previous two years. It was awesome to see how many of the goals the kids had accomplished!  But it was interesting to see which goals had changed, and which goals were staying the same… Continue reading

Conquering Mommy Lies

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It happens when you have one of THOSE days. You know, one where your youngest hides from you in the clothing racks at the store, your oldest throws a fit because you won’t buy him a toy and you’re unable to help your daughter work through her girlfriend problems. Your children are at each other’s throats, you’ve disciplined them 19 times and counting, and your husband comes home to no food on the table and no kiss on the cheek.  Again.  It is days like these when the lies begin to creep in and doubt rises in your mind.  Have you been there?  Don’t raise your hand, but I’m pretty sure that we all have been there a time or two.

“Insecurity saps our faith. It robs us of our joy. It cheats us out of the boldness we need to really excel at what God has called us to do.” ~Joyce Meyer

Satan will do anything in his power to make a mom doubt her abilities, to make her feel insecure. We CAN NOT let him do this!! Let’s uncover several common mommy lies so that we can dismantle and overcome them.

Lie #1: “God gave my kids the wrong mom!”

Do you know that God handpicked you to be your child’s mom? He purposefully placed them in the care of your hands.

In Jeremiah 1:5 (NLT) It says, “I knew you before I formed you in your mother’s womb. Before you were born I set you apart.”

Before your child was born God knew their likes and dislikes. He knew their strengths and weaknesses. He knew what they would need to be successful in this life and He handpicked you to help him or her fulfill His will for their lives. Think about the different areas of your life that you struggle with. How is God working those weaknesses out in you? What changes is He asking you to make? Now look at your children. Do you see those same weaknesses and struggles in them? How awesome is it that God is showing you how to overcome these trials in your own life so that you can teach your children how to avoid them or to overcome them in their own lives!

When you doubt your ability to be their mom, you doubt God’s placement. Dear mom, trust me when I say, “Father knows best!” Your children need you! They can learn from you and they will feel loved by you! God chose you.  

Lie #2 :“I don’t have what it takes to train and discipline my children.”

“The difference between a good mom and a great mom is her supreme confidence in her supreme God.” Joyce Meyer

You know what, you in and of yourself do not have what it takes to train and discipline your child. But you have an all-knowing Father who is on your team and is so willing to be a team player in raising your kids.

I love what it says in 2 Peter 1:3 (NLT) “By His divine power, God has given us everything we need for living a godly life. We have received all of this by coming to know Him, the one who called us to Himself by means of His marvelous glory and excellence.

God promises in His Word that He will supply you with all that you need to do all that He has called you to do, and all you have to do is ask!

Luke 11:9 (NLT) “And so I tell you, keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you.”

James 1:5-6 (NLT) “If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and He will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking. But when you ask Him, be sure that your faith is in God alone. Do not waver, for a person with divided loyalty is as unsettled as a wave of the sea that is blown and tossed by the wind.”

The key to successfully parenting your kids is knowing who is in control. The sooner you give God the reins the sooner you will see your training actually working. Wake up each day asking God to reveal your child’s heart to you. Ask Him to show you how to penetrate the selfishness and sinful nature and mold it into who God created it to be. Follow the Spirit’s leading – He knows what will speak life into their little hearts. Each child is so different, but God can show you how to get through and actually change them.

No child is accidently placed into a parent’s life. It was intentional and purposeful!

Momma, you have what it takes! Believe it!

Other Posts in the Series:

Conquering Mommy Lies, Part 2

 

The Fine Art of Child Delegation

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A few weeks back I wrote a nerdy post about the 4 roles of the preceptor parent.  (I was targeting the “pharmacist-parents-with-more-than-3-children” crowd, which is our niche market.)  I had also put it out there that a dad is a teacher.

Today’s follow-up is about the fine art of delegating to your children.  Why is it a fine art?

  • Fine art takes talent.
  • Fine art takes a lot of practice. And hard work.  And time.
  • Fine art is a beautiful masterpiece!
  • Creating fine art is a messy process.

I am a little concerned that our society is trending towards children who are have every opportunity but little or no experience with responsibility.  Some families have crammed in so many activities that they don’t have time to slow down and teach their kids life skills.  Skills like laundry.  Dishes.  Hammering a nail.  Mowing the grass. Planting a garden.  Cooking.  Cleaning the floor.  You know, all that stuff that YOU have to do for THEM.  Turns out that it is actually your job to teach THEM how to do those jobs for themselves!

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Bedtime: Consistency and Discernment

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I have mixed feelings about bedtime.

I generally handle putting the kids to bed, and it is a very special time that I enjoy.  It is a great opportunity to talk with them about their day and to show them a little more love before tucking them in.  I remind them that “I love them 100.”  (I’d love them more, but that’s the max!)  I want them to end each day knowing that they are loved and cherished.

Other than prying the book out of Hannah’s hand and getting Rebekah to stop bouncing around the room, it is usually pretty easy to get the girls to bed.  It is great daddy-daughter time.

The boys are another matter entirely. They are 4 and 2, and some nights they are great.  Like last night, coincidentally.

But other nights it is a battle.

The two concepts that I try to keep in mind for bedtime are Consistency and Discernment.  Continue reading