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Conquering Mommy Lies: Part 2

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Perfectionist.

Laid back.

OCD.

Type A.

Type B.

Micromanager.

Go with the flow.

What kinds of feeling do these words bring out? No matter what personality type we are, all of us moms are trying hard to be the best mom we can be for our children. We think about it night and day. We lie awake at night thinking about the day. We stress about it. We vow to do better. We allow Satan to mess with our minds when we focus on what we “shoulda, coulda, woulda” do different instead of what we actually accomplished. Today we have two more lies that we are going to dismantle and no longer allow in our thought life. Continue reading

Conquering Mommy Lies

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It happens when you have one of THOSE days. You know, one where your youngest hides from you in the clothing racks at the store, your oldest throws a fit because you won’t buy him a toy and you’re unable to help your daughter work through her girlfriend problems. Your children are at each other’s throats, you’ve disciplined them 19 times and counting, and your husband comes home to no food on the table and no kiss on the cheek.  Again.  It is days like these when the lies begin to creep in and doubt rises in your mind.  Have you been there?  Don’t raise your hand, but I’m pretty sure that we all have been there a time or two.

“Insecurity saps our faith. It robs us of our joy. It cheats us out of the boldness we need to really excel at what God has called us to do.” ~Joyce Meyer

Satan will do anything in his power to make a mom doubt her abilities, to make her feel insecure. We CAN NOT let him do this!! Let’s uncover several common mommy lies so that we can dismantle and overcome them.

Lie #1: “God gave my kids the wrong mom!”

Do you know that God handpicked you to be your child’s mom? He purposefully placed them in the care of your hands.

In Jeremiah 1:5 (NLT) It says, “I knew you before I formed you in your mother’s womb. Before you were born I set you apart.”

Before your child was born God knew their likes and dislikes. He knew their strengths and weaknesses. He knew what they would need to be successful in this life and He handpicked you to help him or her fulfill His will for their lives. Think about the different areas of your life that you struggle with. How is God working those weaknesses out in you? What changes is He asking you to make? Now look at your children. Do you see those same weaknesses and struggles in them? How awesome is it that God is showing you how to overcome these trials in your own life so that you can teach your children how to avoid them or to overcome them in their own lives!

When you doubt your ability to be their mom, you doubt God’s placement. Dear mom, trust me when I say, “Father knows best!” Your children need you! They can learn from you and they will feel loved by you! God chose you.  

Lie #2 :“I don’t have what it takes to train and discipline my children.”

“The difference between a good mom and a great mom is her supreme confidence in her supreme God.” Joyce Meyer

You know what, you in and of yourself do not have what it takes to train and discipline your child. But you have an all-knowing Father who is on your team and is so willing to be a team player in raising your kids.

I love what it says in 2 Peter 1:3 (NLT) “By His divine power, God has given us everything we need for living a godly life. We have received all of this by coming to know Him, the one who called us to Himself by means of His marvelous glory and excellence.

God promises in His Word that He will supply you with all that you need to do all that He has called you to do, and all you have to do is ask!

Luke 11:9 (NLT) “And so I tell you, keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you.”

James 1:5-6 (NLT) “If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and He will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking. But when you ask Him, be sure that your faith is in God alone. Do not waver, for a person with divided loyalty is as unsettled as a wave of the sea that is blown and tossed by the wind.”

The key to successfully parenting your kids is knowing who is in control. The sooner you give God the reins the sooner you will see your training actually working. Wake up each day asking God to reveal your child’s heart to you. Ask Him to show you how to penetrate the selfishness and sinful nature and mold it into who God created it to be. Follow the Spirit’s leading – He knows what will speak life into their little hearts. Each child is so different, but God can show you how to get through and actually change them.

No child is accidently placed into a parent’s life. It was intentional and purposeful!

Momma, you have what it takes! Believe it!

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Conquering Mommy Lies, Part 2

 

C13 Mom: Love Never Fails

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Love NEVER Fails.

There are days when life may seem too hard to handle. There are days when you doubt. Days when you are fearful. Days when nothing seems to be going right. But on those days there is one truth that remains constant: Love never fails. God’s love will always be there, ready to wrap you up and comfort you. God’s love will draw you near. God’s love is ever ready to supply all your needs and bless you beyond what you can even imagine.

Remember, the love your heavenly Father has for you is like the love you have towards your children. No matter how naughty they have been, you always get up the next morning to do it all over again, because your love is never ending. There may be days when you don’t like them very much, but your love for them will never change!

Praise God the same is true of our heavenly Father. No matter what we do or don’t do, His love is permanent. It never comes to an end. It never fluctuates and will last for eternity. On the days you don’t have much left to give, hold onto this promise: LOVE NEVER FAILS! Continue reading

C13 Mom: Love Always…

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As we have journeyed through how to be a 1 Corinthians Mom, we have learned so much about the different character traits of love. We started with two positive expressions of love, patience and kindness. Then we talked through eight different verbs of what love is not like. Now we end on four absolute truths of love.

  1. Love never gives up.
  2. Love never loses faith.
  3. Love is always hopeful.
  4. Love endures through ALL circumstances.

When it comes down to it, the song is right: “All you need is love.” It is love that keeps us going. Love for our children is what gets us up in the morning ready to do it one more day. It is love, after a long battle of the wills that melts their heart and gives us strength to do it all over again.

Love believes the best in our kids. Love is what motivates us to never give up on them. Love so deep in our soul that puts us on our knees to pray even harder for their souls. Even on the bad days, the days when their wills battle against our own, our love for them flows out as we rock them to sleep at night.

There is nothing that love would not do, especially when it comes to our kids. Continue reading

C13 Mom: Love Rejoices With the Truth

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1 Corinthians 13:6 (NASB)

 Love does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth;

At first read, this one seemed easy.  Of course I don’t rejoice in unrighteousness!  Quite the opposite in fact.  But when I got to the second half of the sentence I realized it was a little trickier.  I mean, I like the truth and everything else that is the opposite of unrighteousness, but do I really, actually rejoice along with it?

My commentary 1 says it so well: “The person full of Christian love joins in rejoicing on the side of behavior that reflects the gospel…”  In other words, 1 Corinthians 13 love rejoices when God’s character is lived out. As moms we can sometimes be so focused on correcting the wrong that we fail to praise the good. We fail to recognize when our child does reflect the character of God. I know that I am guilty of this. Some believe that for every criticism or correction you should give your child seven words of praise. Sadly, there are days when I would be hard pressed to even have a one to one ratio. Continue reading

Character Card: Contentment versus Complaining

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Today we are giving away the fifth Character Card in the series: Contentment versus Complaining

The other Character Cards are: Continue reading

C13 Mom: Love Does Not Boast

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The topic of this week’s C13 study is: “Love does not boast.” I’m sure we all know of someone who loves to “share” what they have accomplished or what their kid did the other day that was amazing. We all have this type of people in our lives. And I know that we all have similar feelings about that type of person. I also know that if we are truly honest we all have had moments when we wanted to be that person too. What makes us want to brag? To shout our successes from the roof top? I think there are two underlying causes that lead us to brag.

The first is our desire for acceptance. We want to be loved. We want to be cherished. We want someone to think we are all that! So in our humanness when we finally do accomplish something we want others to notice and praise us. Unfortunately, we sometimes go a little overboard and throw it in someone’s face.  Instead of just letting our actions do our talking, we focus on getting others yo give us our deeply desired praise. We desperately want others to be pleased with us, and we find ourselves rambling on and on about our accomplishments in hopes that they will like us.

The second is our desire to prove to others that we are who we want to be. We feel like we need to compete with those around us, to prove that we can keep up with the Jones’. We have what it takes and we take every opportunity to secure our status. I came across a devotional today that talks about the difference between boasting and pride and I think it explains this pitfall quite nicely… Continue reading

C13 Mom – Jealousy Week 3

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Did you know that there is one person who is allowed to be jealous? That’s right, God is the only one who can be jealous. He is jealous of our time. He is jealous of our thoughts and our hearts. He wants them all. God wants to have a deep relationship with you that goes beyond Sunday morning and Wednesday night church services. He wants to be with you every single day, actually every single moment.  (That may sound controlling and weird, but it isn’t.  He wants those things because He loves us!  He knows what we need.)

Let me tell you about a friend of ours who has several kids. All three of his boys have told my husband that their dad reads the Bible every single day. There was no doubt in their minds that their dad spends time in the Word – it was obvious to them. What an amazing legacy that  he is giving his kids! When we model spending time with God to our kids, we are displaying a way of life. We are showing them how to get tools in their tool belt to tackle any project that life throws at them. Continue reading

C13 Mom: Jealousy, Part 2

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We live the in age of information. We can’t avoid it. Between Facebook, Instagram, email and TV, we know who has what the second they get it. We know who has had a successful day at work or who got new shoes. We even know who had Starbucks today. It is crazy to think that in 5 minutes I can learn so many personal details of people from all walks of my life. We can now become updated on every aspect of a person’s life, which is great because it allows us to rejoice with them. However, we have to be careful, because this also gives us more chances to compare ourselves to others.
It is so easy for us to become jealous of what a person has, what a person can do, or about the season of life or situation a person is living in. Jealousy is so hard to avoid, but it is a battle that we need to learn to control and conquer. Today I am going to talk about some truths about how God set the world up for us to work together, not for fighting against each other.

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C13 Mom: Is not Jealous

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Good Morning C13 Moms,

Last week we finished the two positive expressions of love: patience and kindness. Today we start the next group of characteristics. In this group, God teaches us 8 different verbs that tell us what love is not like or does not do. The first 5 verbs explain the turmoil that goes on inside our minds. The last 3 talk about how we respond to others.

Today the topic is jealousy. In Proverbs 27:4 it says Anger is cruel, and wrath is like a flood, but jealousy is even more dangerous. Jealousy can cloud our thinking and force us to focus on the wrong things. It causes us to become fixated on one specific thing and unable to see or do anything else. Continue reading