“I love you!”
“No, I love you!”
“I love you more.”
“No, I love you more.”
“Well, I love you infinity!”
“Well then, I love you double infinity!”
Has this never ending conversation ever gone on at your house? I know it has at mine. That is until we put a stop to it. Now we are not cruel parents who never tell our children that we love them but we didn’t like the message that this dialog can give. Our love for our children doesn’t change. It can’t go up and down. It isn’t dependent on what they do or don’t do or what they say or don’t say. It is consistent and it will be forever!
When the kids tried to one up us, Nate came up with perfect come back. He would say, “Rebekah – I love you 100, I would love you more, but that is the max.” This sent our kids a clearer picture of the extent of our love. We explained to them that our love for them is at the maximum that it could be and nothing they could do would change that. Even on their worst day, our love would remain at its maximum potential.
Our prayer was that in teaching them this truth they would have a better understanding of God’s love for each of us. Now to make this a true example, your love has to be unconditional for your children. The amount you like them from day to day may change, but your love for them has to stay consistent!!
(If that is not the case for you, don’t fret-seek counsel to help you learn what unconditional love looks like. The first place to start is to grow in your knowledge of God’s unconditional love for you. This might not be something that you have ever experienced, but it is a real thing and you can experience it as you allow God to heal you and love on you!)
We desire that our children really grasp the amazing love God has for them and to never doubt it!
It reminds me of these verses in Ephesians 3:18-19 (NLT)
And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is. May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God.
Do you know that God loves you 100? He would love you more but that is the max! God loved you that much before you were even born. When you were born. Before you were saved. After you were saved. On your worst day and on your best day. His love is unconditional, never changing and everlasting!!
If we could embed this truth deep within the heart and mind of our child think about the guilt and shame that they would not have to carry. They would know that when they messed up, their heavenly Father would continue to love them and would want them to come to Him so that He could mend their brokenness and make them whole again. There is such freedom in that truth!
Think about it: Do you believe God loves you 100, and that He would love you more but that is the max? If you do, make it a priority to instill this truth into your children!