We live the in age of information. We can’t avoid it. Between Facebook, Instagram, email and TV, we know who has what the second they get it. We know who has had a successful day at work or who got new shoes. We even know who had Starbucks today. It is crazy to think that in 5 minutes I can learn so many personal details of people from all walks of my life. We can now become updated on every aspect of a person’s life, which is great because it allows us to rejoice with them. However, we have to be careful, because this also gives us more chances to compare ourselves to others.
It is so easy for us to become jealous of what a person has, what a person can do, or about the season of life or situation a person is living in. Jealousy is so hard to avoid, but it is a battle that we need to learn to control and conquer. Today I am going to talk about some truths about how God set the world up for us to work together, not for fighting against each other.
Truths We Need to Believe, to Avoid the Path Towards Jealousy
1. Just like there are not different levels of sins, there are not different levels of importance when it comes to accomplishments and success.
Starting a non-profit organization is just as important as giving a new widow a hot meal to eat and a shoulder to cry on. Doing well in your job and getting a promotion is as big of a success as winning a ribbon at an art fair. God doesn’t deem one of us more important than the other. (Acts 10:34-35 and Romans 2:11) All God is looking for is a willing heart that is ready to do whatever He calls them to do. (1 Chronicles 28:9, and 2 Chronicles 16:9)
2. Just because someone is good at 1 or even 5 things, doesn’t mean they are good at everything.
Even in today’s society where we know a lot about everyone, we don’t know everything. Not too many people post their day’s struggles or failures on Facebook. People don’t typically advertise the bad. Remember we are all sinners who need God’s grace and forgiveness every single day. No matter how good someone looks from the outside, they are still working out their own struggles and weaknesses.
3. It is actually not a competition – there is no need to feel guilty or condemned because you are not like “Susie”.
When we stand before God, He is not going to say. “Well you did okay, but I wished you could have been a little bit more like Susie. Then I would be proud of you.” No, God wants us to become more like Christ, not the other mom in your moms’ group. We need to stop striving to conform to someone else’s mold, and instead focus on how we can become more Christ-like. He wants you to focus on His calling for your life, not on what the world tells you to be. (Romans 14:4)
4. God has gifted each of us differently.
One of my favorite Joe McGee statements is “If you are exactly the same, one of you isn’t needed.” He was talking about marriage when he said this, but I think that it can also be true of a group of girlfriends. God purposefully made us each different. He doesn’t make mistakes. (Psalm 139:13-16) God has given each of us a part to play. We need to embrace our own role and give it our all. Coveting what someone else has will leave you will discontented and missing out on the blessings of your own skills and talents. (1 Corinthians 12:27-31)
5. It takes a team to live successfully.
To make a family, a group of friends, a church or a community run successfully we all need to play our part. Some will need to be the leaders, some need to be the followers. One is not more important than the other and all are needed for the end goal to be accomplished. I love what it says in Ephesians 4:16 (NLT), “He [Christ] makes the whole body fit together perfectly. As each part does its own special work, it helps the other parts grow, so that the whole body is healthy and growing and full of love.” How can we learn how to cook if someone doesn’t show us how to tell if the meat is fully cooked? How can we run a successful VBS if we don’t have someone who can organize the volunteers, another who creates the crafts and yet another who is able to put the Bible lessons into words the children can understand? I love how God reveals himself to each of us in a different way, in a way that we can understand. We have discussed many times in our married small group, how each of us interact with God. One through nature, one through music, another through reading the Word and yet another through friendships. If you combine all of our revelations, we would get a better picture of who God fully is. We should be excited that we know and understand different things. As we learn from each other, we will grow in our relationship with God and become more like Christ. (Proverbs 27:17)
The New International Commentary on the New Testament explains that “envy” in 1 Corinthians is tied with “strife,” and is describing a rivalry between people. I love how Gordon D. Fee, the author, ends the section on envy, “Love does not allow fellow believers to be in rivalry or competition, either for ‘vaunted positions’ or to curry people’s favor in order to gain adherents. Indeed, it seeks quite the opposite. How best do I serve these for whom Christ died, whatever my own desires?”
Why Is This a C13 Mom Post?
What does this have to do with being a mom? First of all, we moms have to stick together! Let’s all commit to work together as a team instead of comparing ourselves against “Susie.” Trust me, it will be freeing if you do. It will allow you to be the mom God created YOU to be to your children. It will give you the freedom to stop pretending to be who you or not. It will also allow you to cherish the differences you have between your friends and embrace them for who they are. Not only that, it will help you be a better mom. It will help you not become frustrated and angry when your son doesn’t behave as well as your friend’s son does. It will keep you focused on what you can provide for your children instead of being sad about all the things you can’t buy or do. Last, but certainly not least, eliminating jealousy from your life will help you be a good role model for your kids. What a precious gift you can give them!
Let’s be a team!!! Who will join me?
1.) Spend time in prayer asking God to reveal to you any feelings of envy or jealousy. When it is revealed ask for forgiveness, and then ask Him for strength to love the person unconditionally.
2.) Ask God to show you why He made you like He did. What character qualities did He specifically give you so that you would be fully equipped to be the mom you need to be to your kids?
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