Motherhood can be one of the most wonderful things in the whole entire world. But it also gives you a hands on opportunity to experience the roller coaster ride of emotions God feels each and every day. Our hearts, like God’s, are so madly in love with our children, and are so deeply crushed when they choose foolishly. We both desire that they would succeed. We want to bless them and take away every fear and pain. However, there are times when we can not seem to love them like our heavenly Father does. Our children can get the best of us. We can find ourselves frustrated and at a loss of what to do. In those times how do we push on? How do we keep going and have the right attitude in the process? I think it all boils down to this question:
“What Is My Motivation?”
What am I trying to accomplish? What goal am I trying to achieve? For marriage, I am striving to be a Proverbs 31 wife. A wife that my husband can trust (v.11), one that does him good and not evil (v.12) and one that respects him unconditionally (Ephesians 5:33). But what is my motivation in my parenting? Up until recently I would have said that our goal in parenting is to have Godly children that change the world for good. Kids that are confident and bold to take a stand against this evil world. Now, don’t get me wrong, these reasons are good and should be our objectives. But the problem is that those objectives are so far off! There are days when I grow weary, I feel defeated and feel like I am beating my head against the door. I see them losing their battle against their sinful flesh and I start to panic a little that they aren’t getting it. Then I can allow Satan to mess with my mind, and I start tallying up all the areas where I am deficient and inadequate.
It is in those moments that we need a different motivation to help us continue. What will encourage us to keep fighting for the lives of our children? What should we be striving to accomplish? Well try this on for size: Our motivation in parenting should be to show them Christ’s love. Isn’t it love and kindness that brings us to repentance? Isn’t it the ultimate sacrifice of love that saved our souls? Instead of focusing on the goal of raising godly children and making them obey, I think we should change our focus to being a 1 Corinthians 13 Mom!
What if 1 Corinthians 13 read something like this…
If I supply my kids with a diverse educational background and strong foundation for success, but don’t have love, I am just a competent schoolteacher or a successful guidance counselor. If I know every parenting trick in the book and run the home schedule flawlessly, but don’t have love, I am nothing. If I lay down everything I have to care for their every need, but don’t have love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient when saying the same thing for the hundredth time.
Love is kind in words, tone and action.
Love is not envious of her own time and willingly gives it to others.
Love is not boastful or rubs her authority in her children’s face.
Love is not proud, but humbly admits she need God in every area of her life.
Love is not rude, short or harsh in its training or discipline.
Love is not self-seeking. She accomplishes God’s to-do list versus her own.
Love is not easily angered, even when put to the test.
Love keeps no records of wrongs and wipes the slate clean each and every hour.
Love rejoices when truth is found.
Love protects the heart of her children.
Love trusts that the Word of God is true and will accomplish what it says it will accomplish.
Love hopes that her labor is not in vain.
Love always perseveres even when her eyes see no end in sight.
Love never fails!
When we parent out of love we have the ability to reach our children’s heart positively. We have the ability to minister to them and show them a better way.
For the next several months we will be breaking down each characteristic of love. We will explore what it means to possess this characteristic in our parenting. We will memorize Scriptures to help renew our minds. We will pray and encourage each other to continue to love our children in a new, deeper, more Christ-like way.
I know that this journey will stretch me in ways that I cannot even imagine. But I trust that the end result will be so worth the painstaking task of ridding myself of more self-serving, fleshly layers. I am excited to see the true nature of God revealed in my parenting. Will you join me in my quest to be a C13 Mom? Let us bring our most prized possessions to Christ by loving them as Christ intended.
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