For our last post of 2013 we will talk about how we help our children set goals. We started this tradition last year on New Year’s Eve. (We are getting old and would rather stay home and go to bed with our kids than stay up until midnight watching the ball drop! Perhaps you can relate?)
Year In Review
Last year we made fun little snacks, drank some sparkling grape juice and reflected on the year that was ending. First I got out our calendar and talked about all we did and accomplished throughout the year. We discussed fun trips, big milestones, activities and outings. Then I gave each child a sheet a paper that had four squares drawn on it. Then in each square they drew a picture of their favorite memory of that quarter of the year.
4 Squares printable: | Click here to download. |
Then we have the kids fill out a questionnaire. This is a great opportunity to get to know your kids’ likes and dislikes a little better. It is so important for them to be able to verbalize what is important to them instead of just guessing and assuming. Their opinions change just like ours. We are looking forward to when we can look back over the years and see how they have grown – I think it will be a neat keepsake!
New Year’s Interview printable. | Click here to download. |
Last, we talked about what they want to do in the upcoming year. We focused on four main areas: spiritual, educational, emotional and physical.
- For Spiritual goals we focus on praying, reading their Bible and an aspect of God that they want to learn more about.
- For Educational goals we focus on something they want to get better at or learn more about at school (or home if they are not in school). We also talk about what hobby or activity do they want to start, learn about or improve.
- For Emotional, we focus on an area they struggle in. This has so many possibilities from an inner struggle like anxiety to an outer struggle like saying kind words. We try really hard to let them come up with the area they need to work on rather than criticizing them for something. (Usually they know what their struggles are, if you give them a chance to open up in a safe environment.) However, sometimes you have to help them think of an idea. If this is the case then kindly list off some possibilities instead of “well you really need to work on this!” We will talk more later about speaking truth and offering warmth.
- For Physical we focus on their body. What sport do they want to get better at? Do they want to improve their bike riding skills, cartwheels, shooting hoops, jumping etc?
Here is the Kids’ Goals printable: | Click here to download. |
Cherish the Moments!
We found that this can be a wonderful time to sit back and reflect on the year, and to get excited for the year to come. It was very gratifying to watch our kids begin to take ownership of their own growth and maturing. After all, our goal is to prepare them to be self-reliant. We hope that you will join us in cherishing the memories of another year with those who are most important to you!
Nate says that you can’t have too much sparkling grape juice!
There is space below for you to add your comments. Every child is different – do you have suggestions for how to make this activity more meaningful for your kiddos? What do you like to do to celebrate the past year and look forward to the new one?