“There is nothing you’ve done wrong that is too big for God to fix. He can truly make all things work together for good, not only for you but for your children too.”
– Joyce Meyer, from her book The Confident Mom
Reread that statement, and then think about it. Do you believe that this statement is true for you? “Mom guilt” is too prevalent in today’s society. In fact, it seems like you can’t win!
“We aren’t doing enough… we are doing too much.”
“I should have said this…I shouldn’t have said that.”
“I know what I am doing…I don’t know what I am doing.”
“I should have done this and not that.”
“They will never forgive me after what I did.”
“I am going to ruin my kids.”
The list could go on and on. If we start believing these lies we will become paralyzed, and we will forget one key event that occurred so long ago. Jesus loved each one of us so much that He willingly died on the cross for our EVERY sin. In accepting that beautiful gift, we let Him wipe our slate clean!
You Need Your Armor
Recently I taught the kids at my church about the Breastplate of Righteousness. We join God’s army by asking Him into our lives, and in so doing we also put on the breastplate of Righteousness. This means we are made right with God. How? When God looks at us, He sees the righteousness of Christ. He no longer sees our sin but the holiness of Christ. I explained to the kids that sometimes we can make bad decisions, which makes our breastplate a little dirty. In those times the only way to make it clean again is to ask for forgiveness. God responds by wiping the sin off our breastplate and polishing us up bright and shiny again.
But note – we never lose our breastplate! We are still righteous even when we sin. Our outside just becomes dirty. Our inside remains with Christ – we cannot lose our salvation. Praise God!!
How Could I Forget?
A while back I was explaining forgiveness to one of my daughters and she came up with an interesting dilemma. I was explaining to her that when I say that she is forgiven, it is done. Her daddy and I will no longer hold the sin against her. She was distressed and said, “But mommy, I can’t forget it.” Isn’t that the truth?!? Our human brain has the ability to retain lots of information, and at times it seems impossible for us to forget the wrongs done against us or the wrongs we ourselves have committed. We hold on to them. Maybe we hope that by remembering the sin it will help us avoid the same mistake again. But Satan has a way of twisting that memory into guilt, doubt and shame. I then went on to explain to her, that yes it is hard to completely forget about the sin that you have done, but it is possible to stop holding it against yourself. When we think about the wrong done, we can say out loud. “Yes, I did that, but Praise God He forgave me and I can now move on.”
We may not be able to fully let go and keep no record of wrongs, but we can stop allowing Satan to have a hay day with our thoughts. The best way to combat those feelings of guilt, shame or doubt is to acknowledge the feeling and then speak truth to it.
Here are some things that you can tell yourself:
“Yes I did mess up, but Praise God He will forgive me each and every time I sin.” (Hebrews 8:12)
“Yes I made a wrong choice, but from here on out I can make the right choice if I seek after God’s will. He is faithful and will direct my paths.” (Proverbs 3:4-5)
“I may not know where to go from here, but God does and He will give me wisdom.” (Proverbs 2:3-11)
“I may have messed up, but when I turn back to God, He promises to make all things work together for good.” (Romans 8:28)
“I may have screwed up this time, but thankfully nothing I do can cause God to love me any less.” (Romans 8:38-39)
We are not good enough in and of ourselves, but with God all things are possible. We can do all things through Christ who strengths us. We will be the head and not the tail. We will have favor in all that we do.
We all make mistakes. But when you truly understand God’s kind of love, you won’t keep track of your own sins or anyone one else’s!
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This week’s assignment:
1.) Reread 1 Corinthians 13 and make sure you are loving yourself in the way that it commands us to love.
2.) Forgive yourself. Make a list of all the bad things you have done that cause you guilt and shame. Ask God to forgive you. Then find scriptures that prove that it is finished; that God no longer holds them against you. Then in the days to come when you start to doubt God’s love and forgiveness, bring those scriptures back out and reassure yourself that it has already been taken care of.