I’ve never liked the game “Would You Rather.” It’s a childhood game that may bring back good memories for many of you, but for me it brings up feelings of fear. For some reason, this type of game always makes me afraid of getting embarrassed. What if I didn’t know what one of the things is? What if both options were terrible and I couldn’t fathom doing either one, what would I do then? So, when hanging out with friends I usually tried to avoid this type of game.
Fast forward 25 years and I am at a children’s ministry leaders meeting and the emcee starts the lunch with an unexpected “Would You Rather” game. WHAT?? Surely there is an age limit to this game, right?! I was pretty much trapped with no place to go. But much to my relief, this version had an unconventional twist to it. It was “Would You Rather…Bible Edition.”
He started the game with two options. “Would you rather be present at Pentecost or present when Jesus appeared to the disciples after His resurrection?” We had a moment to think about it and then we were to turn to our neighbor and tell them which one we would chose and why. It was interesting to see what people chose and their reasons for choosing. Some reasons were simple, and a few people went very, very deep. I decided to just go with my initial thought instead of over-analyzing it. After all, both would have been amazing to experience!
This got me thinking and it started to change my view on this popular childhood game. That night as we were sitting around the dinner table I decided to ask my kids the same questions that were asked at the luncheon. To my surprise it was a huge hit. The kids were begging for more. Nate and I quickly thought on our feet and came up with several more options. I loved hearing why the kids would chose one event or situation over another. We talked about what we would feel like, how that would have affected us and how it would have changed our perspective on life.
Last year Nate and I read the book Sticky Faith by Kara Powell and it has challenged us and solidified many of our ideas on parenting. Effective parenting always starts with relationship and conversation. We have decided that this is going to be a year of purposeful conversations with our kids. Not lecturing, or teaching, but conversation. This dinner time Would You Rather? game helped us accomplish just that!
This week, what are some times and places where you can have some fun conversations with your kids? Pray that these will be the first steps towards even deeper conversations that strengthen your relationship with your kids.
Here is a list of the Would you Rather questions that we came up with. What would you add? (Remember there is no right or wrong answer to any of these!! Just enjoy the discussion. If you are unfamiliar with any of these Bible stories use this as an opportunity to look it up with your child and explore the stories together!)
- Would you rather experience Pentecost (Acts 2) or be with the Disciples when Jesus appeared to them after His resurrection (John 20:19-23)? Why?
- Not knowing the outcome, would you rather be swallowed by a whale like Jonah (Book of Jonah) or thrown into the lion’s den like Daniel (Daniel 6)? Why?
- Would you rather see the burning bush talk to Moses (Exodus 3) or the fire consume Elijah’s altar in front of the prophets of Baal? (1 Kings 18) Why?
- Would you rather be an Israelite wandering in the desert (Numbers 14-33) or an Israelite taken captive to Babylon (book of 2 Kings or Esther)? Why?
- Would you rather see David defeat Goliath (1 Samuel 17) or Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego survive the fiery furnace (Daniel 3)? Why?
- Would you rather be a slave in Egypt (Exodus 1) or be persecuted like the disciples after the resurrection (throughout the Book of Acts chapters 7-28) ? Why?
- Would you rather see Jesus feed the 5,000 (Mark 6: 30-44) or calm the storm (Mark 4:35-41)? Why
- Would you rather see Jesus heal a blind man (John 9:1-11) or walk on water? (Mark 6:45-56)
- If you could only see one day, which day of creation would you rather see? (Genesis 1) Why?