Love is not easily angered, even when put to the test. And motherhood can definitely put your self-control to the test! (Talk about an understatement!) There are plenty of opportunities for us to lose our patience and act out of frustration or despair. But it is possible to control your emotions instead of letting your emotions control you.
I looked up “slow to anger” on Bible Gateway and these are the scriptures that talked about God being slow to anger towards us. There is a so much we can learn from God’s perfect example! Please read through these and see if you can find some similarities:
Then the Lord passed by in front of him and proclaimed, “The Lord, the Lord God, compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in lovingkindness and truth;
‘The Lord is slow to anger and abundant in lovingkindness, forgiving iniquity and transgression; but He will by no means clear the guilty, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children to the third and the fourth generations.’
“They refused to listen, And did not remember Your wondrous deeds which You had performed among them; So they became stubborn and appointed a leader to return to their slavery in Egypt. But You are a God of forgiveness, Gracious and compassionate, Slow to anger and abounding in lovingkindness; And You did not forsake them.
But You, O Lord, are a God merciful and gracious, Slow to anger and abundant in lovingkindness and truth.
The Lord is compassionate and gracious, Slow to anger and abounding in lovingkindness.
The Lord is gracious and merciful; Slow to anger and great in lovingkindness.
And rend your heart and not your garments.” Now return to the Lord your God, For He is gracious and compassionate, Slow to anger, abounding in lovingkindness And relenting of evil.
He prayed to the Lord and said, “Please Lord, was not this what I said while I was still in my own country? Therefore in order to forestall this I fled to Tarshish, for I knew that You are a gracious and compassionate God, slow to anger and abundant in lovingkindness, and one who relents concerning calamity.
The Lord is slow to anger and great in power, And the Lord will by no means leave the guilty unpunished. In whirlwind and storm is His way, And clouds are the dust beneath His feet.
In these nine verses about God being ‘slow to anger’ is paired with ‘lovingkindness’ eight times, ‘compassionate’ five times, ‘gracious’ seven times, ‘truth’, ‘forgiving’ and ‘merciful’ two times each. One definition of lovingkindness is tenderness and consideration towards others. When we have an attitude of compassion and graciousness towards our children, I believe we will be able to keep our anger to a minimum. We have to realize that they will mess up. They are not perfect, just like we are not perfect. They will mess up, just like we will mess up.
This study reminds me of our study on Love is Kind at the beginning of the C13 series. It is kindness that leads someone to repentance, not frustration or anger. Making people feel terrible about their mistakes does not motivate them to change. Offering them the grace and mercy that they do not deserve, challenges them to do better the next time. Children have a natural tendency to please. If you offer them a safe environment to learn and grow, they will continue to strive to do better. If you create an environment where they will reap the wrath of your anger if they mess up, they with either withdraw out of fear or rebel out of frustration. Choose today to have your house be a house of lovingkindness, not anger.
I’ll leave you with a quote from a blog that I follow:
“I can either let my flesh win or I can exercise virtue. I can fly off the handle, or I can patiently offer kindness. I’ve come to learn that choosing the right path is well worth the effort. Love is so many things, but the heart of the matter is that beautiful love is Christ-centered.” Time-Warp Wife
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This week’s assignment:
1.) Pick a verse and meditate on it.
2.) Post signs around your house to remind you to offer lovingkindness instead of anger.