C13- Kindness Part 2

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At first, it seems incredibly simple: Be Kind. End of story. Shortest blog post ever. But the more I think about the word “Kindness” the more complicated I see the issue at hand. All of us can be kind, no matter what, for a certain amount of time. Think about the times when you are having a heated discussion with your kids or spouse and the phone rings. Most of the time you are able to quickly change your tone and answer the phone in a pleasant sounding voice.  You are able to be as kind as you need to be to the person on the other end of the line. Or we have a coworker that is a little more difficult to be around. We are able to be kind for a while, maybe years.

But the problem is that eventually they start to grate on your nerves.  Over time it becomes more and more difficult to muster up the strength to walk in kindness.  Eventually you are basically just putting on the appearance of kindness, but your heart is full of something else!   That’s where Kindness gets complicated.  It isn’t just ‘Being Nice.”  

I believe that to be truthfully, deeply, authentically kind to those around us we must have a firm foundation with two parts:

  1. We must know who God is.
  2. We must who we are in Christ.

When we are grounded in the truth we are able to withstand the disappointments and hurts that we receive from others.  Without this foundation, true kindness is impossible.  But with it, everything is possible!

Foundation 1:  Who is God? 
He is faithful.
He is loving.
He is compassionate.
He is giving.
He forgives each and every time.
He is a healer.
He is a protector.
He is a provider.
He is a Father to the Fatherless.

Foundation 2: Who are you in Christ?
You are redeemed.
You are complete.
You are lacking nothing.
You have everything that you need.
You are capable.

It is so hard to be kind when you yourself are hurt, frustrated or scared. Many times our actions are directly correlated to our inner feelings. If you are wounded, it may hinder you from being truly kind!  Allow God in to heal those wounds, to calm your fears and to give you hope for the future. Then I believe that you will begin to see things through God’s eyes.

I love the quote “Be kind. Everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” It is a good reminder that everyone has bad days, everyone is trying their best to survive, everyone is looking for a little glimmer of hope. Be that hope. By showing them kindness, you are opening the door for their heart to open up so that you can share with them the love of Christ. Then you will be able to speak life into them, and you will be able to teach them the correct course of action.

When you know and understand in your heart all that God has done for you, you will be able to extend that same amount of grace and mercy to those around you. God is not finished with you. He will continue to challenge you, change you, love you, mold you, be kind to you and forgive you until the day you meet Him face to face. We can and should do the same with our children.  Our end goal is to show them Christ’s love.  If we keep that goal in mind we will be able to show them patience and kindness each and every day. When we humbly admit we are not good enough to do it on our own and that we need God’s strength and guideness, He steps in and guides us through.

Meditate on these verses this week:

Ephesians 4:32 Be kind to one another; tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God is Christ also has forgiven you

Titus 3:4-6 (NLT) But-When God our Savior revealed his kindness and love, he saved us, not because of the righteous things we have done, but because of his mercy. He washed away our sins, giving us a new birth and new life through the Holy Spirit. He generously poured out the Spirit upon us through Jesus Christ our Savior.

This week’s assignment:

  1. Pick another Kindness verse to memorize this week. (Or a verse God has laid on your heart.)   | PDF_Picture   C13 Mom: Kindness Verses    |
  2. Think about areas in your life where you need God to heal a hurt, calm a fear or give you hope. Then ask Him to show you a verse or passage of scripture that will minister to your heart and give you the ability to overcome. Please take the time to allow God to heal your brokenness and replace it with joy and hope. (Isaiah 61:1-3)
  3. Help us out – I came up with a short list of God’s characteristics and our identity in Christ.  What are some of your favorites?  What verses attest to these?


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