Accountability: Guardrails For Life’s Dangerous Road

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Last week I told you that accountability leads to vulnerability, which is talking about things that matter.  It also helps you to keep from driving off a cliff. 

Life is a highway.  But most days it is less like a Disney Cars highway and much more like Trail Ridge Road.  What does that mean?  Well, if you’ve ever been to the top of Pike’s Peak, or driven Trail Ridge Road or the Going to the Sun Road in Glacier National Part, then you understand the picture I’m trying to paint.  This highway has a large dropoff on one side, and so if you veer that way, you’re toast!  The one thing between you and certain death is the guardrail.

One Missed Turn

Guys – life is like that.  Marriage is like that.  Will Rogers said “It takes a lifetime to build a good reputation, but you can lose it in a minute.”  Work, marriage, parenting, church, and leadership in all sectors of life…all of these areas are challenging road races.  If we are driving through life thinking we are Lightning McQueen, then we are putting ourselves in a pretty vulnerable spot.  Even if you’ve made it halfway or 75% of the way up the mountain, it just takes one missed turn to throw it all away. If we don’t have a guy we can talk to about the deepest and darkest parts of our life then we risk driving off into the chasm:

  • Affairs
  • Addictions
  • Selfishness
  • Materialism
  • Lies
  • Shame
  • Guilt
  • Deception
  • Loneliness
  • Rage

The list could go on and on.


Guardrail Installation

No, Seriously

It’s in my blood to be a positive person in general.  (Literally. My blood type is B Positive.)  But this is serious enough that I can’t really afford to be light-hearted.  Accountability is the guardrail that keeps us on life’s winding road.  We all get dumb ideas in our heads from time to time.  Sometimes these dumb ideas are just plain sinful.  If we have an accountability partner who we meet with regularly, chances are pretty good that you will be able to talk to him about this dumb idea and he will help you steer back in the right direction.  You may bang up your fenders a little, but at least you will keep it on the road!  You will make mistakes.  You will do things that you regret, but your weekly meeting will wake you up before you have a fatal crash.  Accountability doesn’t make you perfect, but it keeps you from going over the edge.

I often wonder how many marriages could be saved if guys would just take this mountain road more seriously and do the hard work of installing some guard rails.

How about you?  Do you have any guardrails in place?  Do you have a guy who knows you well enough to ask you the hard questions?  Are you setting up the course for a safe race, or are you just depending on good luck and quick reflexes? 

Here’s a Guardrail Right Here:

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Other Resources

Wife Accountability Series: Wife AccountabilityWife Accountability PartnerThe Husband’s PerspectiveThe Questions, The Rut

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Beautiful Pictures:  Glacier National Park 

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